Stuff Your Stocking Blogfest: Kelly Jamieson

I’ve told this story before but I think it’s worth sharing again because it makes me smile and even get a little teary and helps us all remember what the holiday season is really all about.

Every year at my work the various departments gather food and toys for hampers that are delivered to needy families for the holidays. We get the names of families from the Christmas Cheer Board in our city.

One department put together a beautiful hamper with toys for the three children ages 2, 4, and 7. Every staff member donated their $25 gift certificate for Safeway, which they all receive as a gift from the union here. One of the staff, Brad, had spoken to the mother and arranged delivery. Brad and Dave loaded up Brad’s car and delivered the hamper.

They carried in boxes of food and gifts for the children, making several trips. The children were ecstatic that they were receiving gifts this Christmas, and Brad and Dave felt really good – until they left the home. Then Dave said to Brad, “That lady didn’t speak much English. Didn’t you talk to her on the phone?” Brad replied, “Yes.” Then he paused. “And she spoke perfect English.” They looked at each other, then checked the address they had. To their horror, they realized they had just delivered the hamper to the wrong family!

They didn’t know what to do, but after reflecting and realizing that there was another family still expecting the hamper to be delivered, and the toys had been purchased with those three specific children in mind, they went back into the house. They explained that they’d made a mistake. They actually had to take one of the toys back from a child’s hands, pack things up and take it away. They felt just terrible and the family was distressed, too. What an awful Christmas story!
But wait – it gets better!

When Brad and Dave got back to the office, they told everyone what had happened. The story spread through the building and within an hour, donations started pouring in for another hamper – without being asked, every other department chipped in more food and toys and gift certificates, even another Christmas card was found.
So Brad and Dave returned to the first house later that day and delivered another generous hamper to the family, who were overwhelmed and grateful after the earlier disappointment!

The way everyone immediately jumped in and donated things and helped put it together without even being asked left us all with a very warm, joyful feeling. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Kelly Jamieson is the author of over twenty romance novels and novellas. Her writing has been described as “emotionally complex”, “sweet and satisfying” and “blisteringly sexy”. If she can stop herself from reading or writing, she loves to cook. She has shelves of cookbooks that she reads at length. She also enjoys gardening in the summer, and in the winter she likes to read gardening magazines and seed catalogues (there might be a theme here…) She also loves shopping, especially for clothes and shoes. She loves hearing from readers, so please visit her website at www.kellyjamieson.com or contact her at info@kellyjamieson.com.

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Guest Blog: Kelly Jamieson

I always feel a little left out at Halloween when all the on-line festivities involve books about witches, ghosts, vampires, werewolves and other assorted scary creatures. I don’t write books about any of those things. The scariest thing I write about is falling in love. Although my characters do have to face a lot of fears. Those fears may not involve things that go bump in the night or scary creatures that can sink their fangs into their necks, but they are fears nonetheless.

In my most recent romance One Wicked Night, now available from Samhain Publishing, Tyler Wirth has to return home face his family ten years after being basically disowned by them. He doesn’t want to do it and the only reason he’s going home is because his sister Avery is getting married. There are a lot of secrets in the Wirth family, including secrets that Tyler has kept for other people. When the complicated web of secrets and sins starts to unravel, Tyler has to face his biggest fear — his fear that if he tells his parents the truth, they still won’t love him anyway.

Kaelin Daume has her own fears. Even though she’s had a vague sense of dissatisfaction with her life for some time, she’s comfortable living in Maple Glen, in the house she grew up in, with the people she’s known her whole life. She’s afraid to make changes in her unexciting life because change is scary. Seeing Tyler again at Avery’s wedding is also scary, especially after what happened the last time she saw him. And when seeing Tyler and his best friend Nick results in her throwing caution to the wind, Kaelin too has to face her biggest fear — can she leave her safe and careful life to have those things she’s always wanted deep down inside…but was too afraid to admit she wanted?

Being vulnerable and honest and taking the risk of opening your heart requires a lot of courage. So when you think about it, falling in love can be pretty darn scary.

Here’s a short excerpt from One Wicked Night:

Nick waved a hand. “If you go back there and try to talk to them, what do you think will happen?”

“Nothing! That’s the point! Nothing will change!”

“No, I mean, what’s the worst thing that could happen? What the hell are you so afraid of?”

Tyler gripped the steering wheel so tight his fingers hurt. His head felt as if it was going to explode, so much pressure built up inside him. His heart hammered and stomach churned. What was he afraid of?

He knew. He’d always known. He closed his eyes. Gritted his teeth.

“Tyler.” Nick’s voice was softer.

“I’m afraid—” His voice cracked. Embarrassed he turned away. “Fuck. Fuck you, Nick.”

“Yeah, yeah.”

“I’m afraid…” He swallowed hard. “If I tell them the truth, I’m afraid it won’t make any difference.” The words were wrenched out of him painfully, like ripping a hole in his gut. “They still won’t love me, even if they know the truth.”

There. It was out. He’d spoken it aloud. He couldn’t look at Nick.

Nick’s hand landed on his knee. “You gotta face it, man,” he said again, quietly. “You gotta live with yourself. Thinking that is eating you alive. You have to tell them. You have to try to move on.”

“I can’t tell them everything. Some of it’s not mine to tell.” He thought of Kaelin confronting him about the wrecked car when he was seventeen. He couldn’t betray his sister by telling his parents the truth about that.

“Not all of it, no.”

“I tried to tell them. They didn’t believe me.”

“You didn’t try. Like always, you just let them blame you and never said a goddamn word.”

Tyler bent his head.

“You wanted them to have stuff to hate you about, didn’t you?”

He said nothing, but he knew the truth of it. He’d never felt he could live up to their expectations. So he made sure that he didn’t.

“How’s that working for you?” Nick asked dryly, breaking the tension. Tyler choked out a laugh.

“I can’t do it.”

“I’m with you.”

“I’m not sure that helps.” Tyler lifted his head and gave Nick a rueful smile. “You want me to tell them about us?”

“If you want to, I’m fine with it.” Nick held his gaze steadily.

“Fuck, man,” Tyler whispered. “You fucking kill me.”

“Yeah, I know. I’m fine if you don’t tell them, too. Your choice.”

Tyler felt as if his guts were being ripped out of him. “Fuck,” he said again.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Kelly Jamieson recently sold her twenty-first romance novel. Her writing has been described as “emotionally complex”, “sweet and satisfying” and “blisteringly sexy”. If she can stop herself from reading or writing, she loves to cook. She has shelves of cookbooks that she reads at length. She also enjoys gardening in the summer, and in the winter she likes to read gardening magazines and seed catalogues (there might be a theme here…) She also loves shopping, especially for clothes and shoes. She loves hearing from readers, so please visit her website at http://www.kellyjamieson.com/ or contact her at info@kellyjamieson.com.

GUEST BLOG: KELLY JAMIESON

The idea of the power exchange between a couple has always fascinated me in all my BDSM romances—well, truthfully, in ALL my romances. I’ve enjoyed exploring different dynamics between a woman and a man, and even between a woman and two men. I’ve explored stories about women who are reluctantly submissive, who may know what they like but feel conflict about that, or women who are in denial about what they like. I’ve explored a story about a woman who knows what she wants/needs—but the man she cares about doesn’t understand that.

When I wrote my book Power Struggle, a number of readers and reviewers commented that they wanted to read more about Gabe—the master Dom at le Château who was Tori’s play partner and who gives Dev advice about Tori. And I wanted to write Gabe’s story.

But it wasn’t that easy. I’d laid somewhat of a foundation for Gabe. I knew a little about him. But I didn’t know why he was the way he was. And I didn’t know who was going to be the right woman for him. It took some work to figure all that out. Gabe is complicated and wounded and hiding all that behind some very thick walls. But Reagan knows how to break those walls down. Of course, she has some wounds of her own that she’s dealing with, but together she and Gabe learn about power…about (in a good relationship) how power shifts, depending on the couple, depending on who needs what. And it works for them.

Kelly Jamieson recently sold her twentieth romance novel. Her writing has been described as “emotionally complex”, “sweet and satisfying” and “blisteringly sexy”. If she can stop herself from reading or writing, she loves to cook. She has shelves of cookbooks that she reads at length. She also enjoys gardening in the summer, and in the winter she likes to read gardening magazines and seed catalogues (there might be a theme here…) She also loves shopping, especially for clothes and shoes. She loves hearing from readers, so please visit her website at www.KellyJamieson.com or contact her at info@kellyjamieson.com.

SPRING IS BUSTIN’ OUT ALL OVER: KELLY JAMIESON

Spring is sprung and while most folks are outside enjoying warmer weather, trees turning green, maybe some early flowers blooming – others are inside watching hockey playoffs!
I love hockey but I have to admit I’m not a faithful fan during the regular season (I’m too busy writing). But once playoff season starts I am so there! Actually, living in Canada, it’s hard to avoid since there’s a hockey game on television pretty much every night, at least in the early stages of the playoffs. Once things get down to the semi finals it slows down a little, but that’s when it gets most exciting.
Back in the eighties and early nineties, I loved to go to live NHL games although I couldn’t afford tickets very often. But our beloved Jets left Winnipeg back in 1996 when the team had financial problems. That was probably one of the saddest days in our city’s history and amazingly, I don’t think hope has ever entirely died that some day our Jets will return.
I’ve been a hockey fan since I was a little girl and watched Hockey Night in Canada with my mom and my grandma (strangely, my dad wasn’t much of a hockey fan and usually napped on the couch during games). And since I started writing romance, I’ve always wanted to write a story about a hockey player. And so I did!
Breakaway is a story about pro hockey player Jason Heller and his unlikely love interest, Remi, a school teacher who finds herself swept into a world of puck bunnies and paparazzi and hard hits into the boards.
I’m writing this post ahead of time so I have no idea what teams I’ll be watching in the playoffs when this actually goes up. As the cliché goes, the playoffs are a whole new season and it’s not always the “best” team that moves forward. I know hockey’s not as popular down in the U.S. but I hope some of you are watching with me and will maybe even check out my hockey romance!
Kelly Jamieson lives in Winnipeg, Canada and is the author of several romance novels. Her writing has been described as “emotionally complex”, “sweet and satisfying” and “blisteringly sexy”. If she can stop herself from reading or writing, she loves to cook. She has shelves of cookbooks that she reads at length. She also enjoys gardening in the summer, and in the winter she likes to read gardening magazines and seed catalogues (there might be a theme here…) She also loves shopping, especially for clothes and shoes. She loves hearing from readers, so please visit her website at www.kellyjamieson.com or contact her at info@kellyjamieson.com.

Friday Spotlight: Kelly Jamieson

So this week I’ve been talking about some of the reasons men love bitches. If a woman always maintains that independence, that mystery, that high value on herself, a man will never feel he’s totally conquered her and will have to keep trying. I must say, I do love the idea of my husband continually trying to win me. Sigh.

What did guys have to say? They said they like a woman who can put them in their place, who can banter and give back as good as she gets, who won’t put up with being treated badly. They also like a woman who likes sex (big surprise) but not just sex that’s all about pleasing him, but that’s about getting her own pleasure, too. When he knows she’s loving sex, he feels like a god. So ladies, remember – make sure it’s good for you!

If a man treats a woman with disrespect and she allows it, he begins to lose respect for her. I know this happened to me with a guy I dated – he broke up with me to go back to his old girlfriend, then when he decided that was a mistake, I took him back. And, I’m ashamed to say, not just once. He would see her even when we were supposedly back together. I let it go on and I know he lost respect for me because of that. I wish I’d had enough self esteem to kick his ass out and never let him back in.

Interestingly I see some of this in my most recent release, Lost and Found (Samhain Publishing). Krissa is a pleaser. She suspected her husband of cheating on her, but didn’t deal with it, perhaps because she would rather be with him than be alone. He blames her for the problems in her marriage and she accepts that blame, accepts how he makes her feel not good enough. When she finally learns to value herself, learns to not put up with being treated with disrespect, and isn’t afraid to be alone – she finally finds true love.

Thursday Spotlight: Kelly Jamieson

Other good marriage advice from Why Men Love Bitches is about nagging. Nagging reminds him of his mother. (See yesterday’s post!) According to Argov, motherly = emasculated. Nagging doesn’t give him anything to think about, to worry about, to wonder if he’s losing you. He just tunes it out and doesn’t listen to it. Don’t nag.

Men still need to feel needed – and appreciated – for their masculinity. They don’t want to feel women need them for basic, common sense things, everyday life things, or most importantly they don’t want to feel a woman needs him to assure her of her own self-worth (because you already know how valuable you are, right?).

I remember a time at a party where I saw a woman telling her husband how stupid he was because of something he’d said or done (I can’t even remember what it was). I could see how embarrassed and demoralized he was in front of his friends. Keep that stuff private. (I actually think this applies to men and women.) In public, let him have the power position. Apparently men don’t mind the woman being in charge at home – as long as no one else knows about it. Let him keep his ego.

Tomorrow: Sex

Wednesday Spotlight: Kelly Jamieson

Some of the advice in Why Men Love Bitches I already knew. Some of it I learned from my own mother, but perhaps I just grew up in the many years I’ve been married.

I love the advice about maintaining financial independence, something I have always been adamant about for myself. Ms Argov’s premise is that if a man has to carry a woman financially, he’ll feel as though she’s an added responsibility instead of an asset (note that she’s clear that if a woman is staying home to raise children, this is very different and she is doing the hardest work in the world). But times have changed. My mom never worked after she got married, and I wonder how much pressure my father felt to support the family, all on his own. I know there were some tough times for my parents, as there have been for me and my husband, yet when it came to finances, we were a team and it was a shared responsibility.

On the other hand, if you come across as too independent, and capable of doing everything, you’ll get stuck doing everything. Been there and done that! Men will do what they can get away with and if you do it all, they’ll let you – but there’s a price to pay. When he starts taking you for granted, he’s lost that feeling of wanting more, and instead he starts feeling like you’re his mother. You don’t want him to think of you as his mother. Trust me.

Tomorrow: More marriage advice

Tuesday Spotlight: Kelly Jamieson

According to author Sherry Argov’s Attraction Principle #1, anything a person chases runs away. Have you ever had someone interested in you (could be a man or could be just someone seeking friendship) who came on too strong, who seemed too needy?

When that has happened to me, I have this feeling that if someone’s that needy and that interested in me, there’s something wrong with them and I should run the other way. So if it applies to women, surely it applies to men just as much.

More of what the book has to say: Men are competitive. They want to compete, they want to win. If he feels he has to win you over, he’s going to place a higher value on you. He wants to be the pursuer. So don’t chase him. Act like the prize he can win. Leave him wanting more.

Women want safety and predictability whereas men want danger and excitement. So don’t be predictable and that element of danger will attract him.

Why in this day of women being equal to men, should women NOT go after what they want? We can do that in our careers, in other parts of our lives, why not when it comes to men?

Also interesting were interviews with men, where they talked about “playing it cool “ so they don’t appear weak or desperate – with other men. So if men play that game even with other men, why shouldn’t women play it?

I think the key is not to “play games”. Don’t pretend you’re too busy to see him one night – be too busy to see him one night. Have a life. Have something you’re genuinely passionate about. Don’t just act like the prize he has to win – believe you are the prize he has to win. Love your life, with him or without him.

Tomorrow: Marriage advice

Monday Spotlight: Kelly Jamieson

This week I’m going to talk about bitches.

I recently read a book called Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov. I read it mainly as research but found it had lots of thought provoking information I think many of us can relate to.

First off, though you have to understand her definition of a “bitch”. The title would make you wonder why on earth a man would love a bitch, the term bringing to mind a selfish, bad-tempered shrew who treats a man like dirt. Who would love that?

But Ms Argov’s definition of a bitch is basically a woman who places a high value on herself. A Babe In Total Control of Herself.

We all know those women who give up everything to spend time with a man, who give up their interests, hobbies, passions, even their friendships. We all know those women who stay in relationships where the man takes her for granted (or even worse is abusive) because she’s afraid to be without him.

Ms Argov outlines a “bitch” as a woman who maintains her independence, who doesn’t pursue him, who leaves him wanting, who stays in control of her time, who is passionate about something other than him, and who places a high value on herself. And that’s what I think it all comes down to.

Ms Argov outlines several “Attraction Principles” throughout the book that are difficult to argue with. I’ll talk about a few of them this week.

Tomorrow: Attraction Principle #1

Friday Spotlight: Kelly Jamieson

I recently noticed that many of my stories involve food and/or drinks. I’ve written two stories about coffee ( Sexpresso Night, coming later this year with Ellora’s Cave is one of them) one story about beer (Dream Girl), one story about olives (as yet unpublished) and my serial blog story Insatiable, about a celebrity chef who loves women, sex and food. Chef Tyler is very sensual – especially when it comes to oral pleasure. He loves to taste things – food of course, but he loves to taste women, too.

The other thing my stories all have in common is hot sex. I like to make the sex hot by making it also a very sensual experience, and here’s where I see that eating and sex are so much alike – both are very sensual acts.

Food has to look attractive in order to appeal to us. It also has to smell good – we all know the powerful appeal of particular foods – charbroiled steak, sweet vanilla…for me, popcorn! Foods have a particular feel in the mouth – the lusciousness of whipped cream, the sparkle of beer or champagne, the silkiness of good chocolate. In Sexpresso Night I even talk about the mouthfeel of coffee! I suppose foods even have sounds – sizzling, crunching, rustling. And of course the taste – once you’ve seen it and smelled it and your mouth waters, you’ve got to taste it.

Just like sex – certainly an attractive outer package is your first impression. You listen to the cadence and tone of a lover’s voice –a deep husky voice, or a soft musical voice appeals to a certain something inside you. As you get closer to someone, their scent makes an impression, too. Then you get close enough to touch – satiny skin, silky hair, rough beard, hardness, softness…and then you taste – mouth, skin…and more.

No wonder I like to write about food in my stories…