Tuesday Spotlight: Laura Kaye

Women’s Top Five Sexual Fantasies

Women share an interest in the same sexual fantasies. Survey after survey includes a similar mix of arousing scenarios—only the ranking tends to differ. And, among the top five is the very fantasy that drives Just Gotta Say heroine Callie Davis totally crazy. Which one is that? Read on, my fantasizing friends, read on…

Sexual fantasies that most frequently appear in the Top 5:

Force Fantasies. This may surprise some people, but force fantasies consistently rank at the top of survey results on female sexual fantasies. Women fantasize about being manhandled, having rough sex, hair pulling, spanking, being told what they want and resisting a man’s seduction because it allows them to indulge in their most wanton sexual behavior without having to feel slutty or guilty about it. In the bedroom, force fantasies also allow them to imagine giving up the control they maintain in every other part of their lives.

Bad Girl
. Fantasizing about being a bad girl is another top-fiver, and manifests in a number of different ways. Women fantasize about being a prostitute, picking up a stranger and blowing his mind. Women fantasize about serving as a man’s private dancer, enticing him with a striptease and a lap dance. Bad girls also sleep with inappropriate, risqué partners—her “daddy,” her man’s best friend, her boss, or her subordinate. Within this fantasy, women often desire to control the man, order him around, dominate him, though this isn’t strictly a domination fantasy. More, women relish the ideas of sexual freedom and blatant expression of wantonness.

Group Sex. Ding-ding-ding! We have a winner—here’s Callie’s fantasy in Just Gotta Say! Equally popular among top-five female sexual fantasies is group sex with a man and another woman and group sex with multiple men. Many women fantasize about girl-girl sex. Many women are attracted to the idea of another woman’s soft, smooth female flesh and her knowledge of what feels good to a woman. And, if her man watches her get it on with this lady, that’s all the better. Those lured by the fantasy of group sex with multiple men focus on the idea of being the center of all their attention, and the feeling of power that comes from bringing a group of hot, virile, manly men to their knees. Yep, group sex is at the top of women’s lists.

Exhibitionism. Another high-ranking sexual fantasy is being watched. This might mean masturbating in front of your guy, having sex in a public place, engaging in sexual activity anywhere you might get caught, or performing for a camera in a home movie. In this fantasy, women love the inherent danger the fantasy represents. They also love the idea that strangers would get hot watching them get off. It’s another fantasy that gives women a sense of power, and also thrills them because, to do it, they’d have to let go of all their inhibitions about their naked body—an exciting thought all by itself.

Voyeurism. Women like to watch as well as be watched, so it’s not surprising voyeurism consistently ranks at the top of women’s sexual fantasies. Over 40% of women admit to watching porn movies or visiting pornographic websites while alone. And, among those, a Stanford University survey that women can orgasm, on average, within two minutes of watching an erotic movie. Voyeurism is the most low risk of the top-ranking sexual fantasies, which is one of the things that makes it prominent.

Are you surprised by what ranks at the top of women’s sexual fantasy list? Stay tuned tomorrow for more top-10 women’s sexual fantasies. It’s getting hotter and hotter ‘round here…

Thanks for reading,
Laura Kaye



ABOUT THE AUTHOR: A multi-published author of paranormal, contemporary and erotic romance, Laura Kaye’s hot, heartfelt stories are all about the universal desire for a place to belong. Laura is the author of the bestselling contemporary romance Hearts in Darkness and the bestselling and award-nominated paranormal romance Forever Freed. Just Gotta Say is Laura’s third published book, and her fourth, North of Need (Book 1 in the Hearts of the Anemoi Series) releases on November 1. Laura lives in Maryland with her husband, two daughters, and cute-but-bad dog, and appreciates her view of the Chesapeake Bay every day.


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  1. Well I must say I loved the first post about forced Fantasies 😉 ** waggles eyesbrows !!! Loved the post !! and congrads to Laura !! on the new release.. Thanks for the post and giveaway !!!

    kat !!


  2. Yay, Katrina! Glad to see you here so bright and early! Thanks for the comment!

  3. Fantasies? Hmmmmm……

    So looking forward to your new book! Have loved your others.

    I don’t read a lot in this genre but sometimes a good ‘ole steamy book with a little man love thrown in is good for the mind!



  4. LOL Tracy! I couldn’t agree more! Thanks for your comment! 🙂

  5. Agreed Katrina. I’ve always loved the idea of forced fantasies. My fave would be say you and your bf gets in a argument and he just grabs and trys to kiss and touch you. While your shoving him and pushing him away, he’s ripping off your clothes and backing you up to the bed. And only until he’s balls-deep do you surrender and yall have wild monkey sex. Lol, quite a picture, I know, but it’s my top fantasy. Great post, Laura!


  6. Phew! Heather! Did it get hot in here or what? That was, um, very, very inspiring. Yep. Me likey that one, too.

    You guys are the best! I’m gonna hang with you all the time! 😉

  7. I’m so glad I live in a time when women are allowed to admit to and talk about their sexual fantasies.

  8. Katrina.,… how can any of us top that!! Well, I happen to think when the man is so far gone and can not wait he takes you up against the wall. Pounding into you until you shatter with an orgasm that radiates thru your entire soul is damn HOT! OR, even better in dark alley or up against a car in a dark parking lot!!

    Laura you are amazing!! Thanks for sharing your talent!!

  9. Oh Luv, you’re filled with some damn hot inspiration, yourself! Thanks for that great comment! 🙂

  10. OMG, Anna, yes, so very true! Love that point!

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  12. I love this post. I have to admit that a menage is my fantasy. And my number 2 fantasy is to be with a woman. I’m agree with Anna, I don’t think I could have lived in another time without expressing my feelings about this, or even to my boyfriend without a smile from him!!

  13. You’re made of awesome, Lissette!

  14. Laura, Congrats on your Friday release! I know it will be a great read as your other two books were fantastic!!

    books4me67 at ymail.com

  15. Squee! Thanks books4me!

    Great comments today everyone, and fantastic sharing! Stop on back tomorrow, I’ve got more planned!

  16. Yeah, I think the top sexual fantasies are just about right. Not that I am commenting about my own preferences (*cough). Thanks for the post and giveaway! Congrats on the book release!

    areeths at new dot rr dot com

  17. LOL Anne! No, of course not… 😉

  18. I definitely aggee with some of these top fantasies! Especially menages with multiple guys. That’s why this book is so high on my wishlist!
    June M.
    manning_j2004 at yahoo dot com

  19. Woohoo, June, glad to hear! 😉

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