As a little girl I used to think heroes were men with muscles. They were tall and good looking, and very, very strong.
Now, as an adult, as well as a writer, I know better.
For me, heroes are not necessarily good looking, although that certainly helps. They don’t have to be muscle-bound either, but I wouldn’t knock it back.
And they certainly don’t have to be tall, but I do prefer my man to be taller than me.
As someone who has been married to the same man for nearly 37 years, a hero is something altogether different for me.
He’s someone who thinks about the heroine (or his partner) more than himself. He puts her first and makes her his first priority.
He is not selfish, and doesn’t make decisions, especially life-changing or life-altering decisions without her input.
He is sensitive to her needs and emotions, and doesn’t try to upset her. Toxic relationships just don’t do it for me.
Instead he protects her, keeps her safe when necessary, and listens to what she has to say.
In today’s society, I believe a true hero also needs to be a ‘new-age’ guy. Someone who is prepared to help with the housework and cooking, and spend time with his kids.
He would even be a stay-at-home dad if the need arises.
And he certainly won’t baulk if she is earning more than him, making her the bread-winner instead.
There’s way to much of ‘disposable relationships’ these days. Most women like stability, and like to know their man will be around for a long time.
To support each other through the ups and downs, the hard times, as well as the good. Men who show their emotions are my type of guy. I don’t want a wooden man, I want to know he really means what he says.
I try to relate all these things to my romance novels, to give you the best darned hero I can.
Now that you know what I believe makes a hero, I’d love to hear what it means for you.