What I Learned from my Heroine by Sharon Struth

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This post is part of a virtual book tour organized by Goddess Fish Promotions. Sharon will be awarding a $25 Amazon GC to two randomly drawn commenters during the tour. Click on the tour banner to see the other stops on the tour.

A Lesson From My Heroine

Forgive and forget.

Sounds easy, right? As I started to write my novel, The Hourglass, I began to see how forgiving others is easy; it’s forgiving ourselves that is often the hardest to do.

Character Brenda McAllister struggles with the loss of her husband to suicide a year before the book opens. A devastating reality for any wife, but in my heroine’s case she’s a psychologist who specializes in family therapy and has published a popular self-help book.

She’s certain that, to the outside world, she looks like a failure. Her husband’s problems had stayed hidden from others and hurt their marriage. Even though she tried to help him, she believed he was hiding something. Worse, she wonders every day if he learned about her affair with his best friend and it that’s what pushed him to his final decision.

Yikes…I thought I had problems!

While I wrote this book, however, I watched Brenda soldier on. She faces the world with the launch of her latest self-help book and digs deep to learn about the demons of her husband’s past. Turns out he really was hiding something from her.

Brenda had some pretty big stuff going on, nothing like my boring life. Yet I still do stupid things and often have trouble seeing myself clearly through the rubble of my mistakes. I began to admire this character for facing her mistakes, trying to make sense of them. In Brenda’s case, when she meets CJ Morrison, she sees how failure to come to terms with a bad decision can devastate a person if you don’t let go.

It’s easy to wear blinders when it comes to our own lives. How easily do you forgive yourself when you make a mistake?

About the Author: 8_19 hourglass AuthorPic Novelist Sharon Struth believes you’re never too old to pursue a dream. The Hourglass, her debut novel, received first place in the Dixie Cane Memorial Contest and second place in the Golden Heart. She writes from the friendliest place she’s ever lived, Bethel, Connecticut, along with her husband, two daughters and canine companions. For more information, including where to find her published essays, please visit http://www.sharonstruth.com.

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8_19 hourglass Cover_TheHourglassCan forgiveness survive lies and unspoken truths?

Until Brenda McAllister’s husband committed suicide, she appeared to have the ideal life: a thriving psychology practice, success as a self-help author, and a model family. But her guilt over her affair with Jack’s best friend prevents her from moving on. Did Jack learn of her infidelity? Was she the cause of his death?

The release of Brenda’s second book forces her into an unexpected assignment with arrogant celebrity author CJ Morrison, whose irritating and edgy exterior hides the torment of his own mistakes. But as she grows closer to CJ, Brenda learns she wasn’t the only one with secrets—Jack had secrets of his own, unsavory ones that may have led to his death. While CJ helps Brenda uncover the truth about her husband, she finds the path to forgiveness isn’t always on the map.

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  1. Mary Preston says:

    When I make a mistake , and I have made quite a few in my time, I tend to deal with it & then move on.


  2. Thank you for hosting

  3. Catherine says:

    Unfortunately, I’m not very easy going or forgiving–of myself or others. I’m trying to get better about that…to not hold a grudge; to not let little mistakes bother me. I’m still a middle aged work-in-progress! LOL.
    catherinelee100 at gmail dot com

    • Lol, Catherine! Aren’t we all. In a way middle-aged has made me more insightful but it doesn’t mean I don’t slip back into old habits sometimes. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Good morning! Thanks for hosting me!

  5. I’m definitely not a very forgiving person of my own mistakes. I tend to wallow in it. Sometimes so long that I miss opportunities to fix what I did or to make my life better. Kind of an even more pathetic branch of procrastination.

    andralynn7 AT gmail DOT com

    • I sure do understand Andra. Even thought you procrastinate (like we all do sometimes) don’t ever think it’s too late to make something better. I’m a believer in second chances. 🙂
      Thanks for sharing!

  6. when I do something wrong, I have to remind myself that I can’t go back and undo it. I have to go on and try to be the best person possible.

  7. What a great excerpt! I’m loving this tour!

    hense1kk (At) cmich (dot) edu

  8. depends on what it was

    bn100candg at hotmail dot com

  9. This is the last stop on the blog tour and I’ve selected two winners for the Amazon gift cards! Catherine (who posted above) happens to be one the winners! Congratulations, Catherine. Thank you to those who followed my tour!

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