How to Handle Negative Criticism by Tamara Hoffa – Guest Blog and Giveaway

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How to Handle Negative Criticism

We’ve all heard the adage “Any publicity is good publicity” right? But to us writers our books are like our children and when you say my baby is ugly… well I want to smack you in the face. However, as a professional I can’t do that.
How do I handle negative criticism? I ignore it. That’s not to say I don’t read it. I do. I read ever review and comment I find about my work, and if it’s true criticism I am happy to listen and think about it when I write my next book. Unfortunately, a lot of the time what we writers find in negative reviews isn’t constructive criticism, but author bashing, personal attacks or people being just plain mean.

That can be really hard to handle. Sometimes you want to lash out and answer back, but I NEVER do that. To do so would only make me look bad. Opinions are like fannies, everyone has one and they can set them on whatever chair they want.

I look at it this way, having a few “bad” reviews lets people know that reviews on my book are honest and keep me honest. Some people like chocolate and some people like vanilla. You can’t please all the people all the time. (Is that enough clichés for you?)

I will say, some negative reviews can be very creative. A friend of mine recently had a terrible review, with video inserts and all. She was devastated! The review however garnered a lot of attention and she ended up selling a lot of books because of it. I guess people wanted to read the book to see if the reviewer was right and the book really was “that bad.” Who knows how some people think?

I will say, the only negative reviews that really frost my a$$ are the ones that come out on Goodreads before my book releases. I can’t understand how someone can rate a book a 1 that they haven’t read? Really? At least give me chance before you tell me I suck! Lol.

So, as an author I love to get reviews! Each one is like a present to me, and I do want your honest opinion, but please criticize my book, and my writing, not me as a person. Thanks!

Thanks for spotting by today! Happy Reading!

Twenty-five and never been kissed, Jenna Raynes is a beautiful woman with a rubenesque figure often overlooked by men. In the mood for a little honey, the sassy new schoolteacher is stopped in her tracks by one growled word from an alpha bear…“Mine.”

Bern Helms’ inner bear catches the scent of his destined mate. His animal’s desire is drawn to her curves, but Jenna is human, and not lured to him by instinct. Convincing her begins as a sizzling, sweet affair that is soon spoiled by danger. In their small backwater town, nerves are strung taut. Someone is abducting shifter children.

When confronted, Jenna is as protective of her students as a mamma bear. For Bern, all bets are off when the kidnappers take Jenna too. Nothing will keep a bear from his mate. The hunters will become the hunted…

Enjoy an excerpt:

“I’ve never had a boyfriend before.”

“I think perhaps then all the men you have met before have been blind and stupid, but I am glad they were because it saves me from having to hunt them down and kill them.” Bern growled.

Jenna stopped dead in her tracks and gazed up at him in stunned silence. He was serious. Bern shrugged his shoulders and planted a kiss on the end of her nose. “I cannot help it. I am a jealous man.”

They continued walking in companionable silence and reached Jenna’s house in a few minutes. She unlocked the front door and Bern held her back from entering. “Let me check the house first please.”

He left her standing on the front porch while he took the bags into the house. She saw the lights flip on methodically throughout the rooms and then Bern returned to the porch. “All clear,” he said and pulled her into the house. He attempted to pin her against the wall and kiss her senseless, but Jenna put her hands on his chest and pushed. It was like pushing against a brick wall!

“Oh no you don’t, Mr. Bear. This honeycomb is closed until I get some answers. Get your furry butt to the kitchen and you can talk while I make dinner. I want to know what the hell is going on around here.”

Bern had the good grace to look sheepish. “Yes, ma’am,” he said and strode toward the kitchen, leaving Jenna to follow that delectable and at the moment, not in the least bit furry backside. Oh yum.

Jenna pointed to a kitchen chair. “Sit. Talk.”

About the Author:

Tamara Hoffa lives in central Tennessee, with her husband of 30 years, her parents, 2 dogs and 2 cats. She started reading at four years old and has rarely been seen without a book since. At home you will usually find her in “nana’s chair” with her kindle, her laptop or one of her precious, precocious grandsons in her lap. Tamara is an author, an editor, and reviews/promotions coordinator for Secret Cravings Publishing. Tamara is proof positive that it’s never too late to reach for your dreams.

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  1. Thanks for hosting!

  2. Ashley F says:

    Looks great and thanks for the giveaway.

  3. Beautiful cover!

  4. Rita Wray says:

    I enjoyed the excerpt.

  5. Tamara Hoffa says:

    Interestingly enough I got a low review this morning. Lol. Not terrible, a 3 star, but that is low for Hers to Bear, (most of the reviews have been 4-5’s)
    It was a frustrating review for me, as it seemed to be for the reviewer, because she couldn’t seem to voice what she didn’t like about the book.
    So, I’ll say something just didn’t click for her and I get that.
    But I appreciate that she kept her criticism to the book!

  6. Jean Joachim says:

    Great advice. You are so right, Tamara. Good luck with your new book. I love your writing.

  7. Melissa Conner says:

    I enjoyed reading your post on How to Handle Negative Criticism and understand it well, even though I’m not an author, I’m a singer and have had my share of criticism. You just have to keep your head held high and know that you did your best and not everyone will like what you do, they just might be jealous is all. Keep up the good work! 🙂

  8. I just read that review on Amazon. And to tell you the truth, that review seemed to me to be the most honest of the bunch. I tend to back off a book that is all glowing and 5-stars all around with maybe a 1 or 2-star mixed in. That seems phoney to me…but I’m just one fanny in a million! LOL loved that! It’s always been my feeling that if a critic doesn’t like a movie, chances are, I will. Same goes for books. All that said, I did enjoy reading your guest post today. I like that you ignore those flamers with nothing to say and are merely author bashing for the fun of it. They don’t deserve the time of day or the breath you would waste telling them off. And you bring yourself down to their level.

  9. Excellent post. I like receiving reviews too. Everyone has different tastes.

  10. Shirley Ann Speakman says:

    I enjoyed the excerpt and I liked the post about “How to Handle Negative Criticism” it was very interesting.

  11. lori faires says:

    That’s a great post on How to Handle Negative Criticism. I’ve worked as manager in several jobs over the years. And I find that it’s just as difficult to give correct negative criticism as it is to take it. I’ve also been in the receiving position, too. I enjoyed the excerpt. Hers to Bear sounds Awesome. Blessings & Thanks to All

  12. I’m much more inclined to read a book that inspires a wide variety of feelings in people, instead of straight 5-star reviews all the way around!

  13. Barbara Elness says:

    I enjoyed the excerpt of Hers to Bear, as well as the post on handling negative criticisim.

    • Tamara Hoffa says:

      Thanks for stopping by Barbara, Glad you liked the excerpt

      • Tamara Hoffa says:

        I did, Felicia. I wrote a lot of poetry and short stories. I was in the creative writing club, I loved it. We had a lot of fun and even put out a magazine at the end of the year.

  14. Pamela Reveal says:

    I just am so Thankful for Authors like you Tamara Hoffa for such emotional filled books that takes us on journeys that leave us filled with emotion

  15. Felicia Sidoma says:

    Did you write when you when in school?

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